The Endless Pursuit of Validation.

External validation is a tricky thing. On one hand, nobody can deny that it feels good to have an outside acknowledgement. On the other hand, we all know it is not healthy to seek it out too much.

Finding healthy balance with validation consists of being able to receive it without defining our self-worth/evaluation on it.

Here is something that many people fail to realize though; the pursuit of validation from others is endless. The sooner you realize that it is a race without a finish line, the easier it is to worry less about it.

Consider how much of your behaviors revolve around wanting that validation from other people; how often do you get the absolute confirmation that the validation is received? More often then not you are stuck speculating on whether or not you were recieved well.

Furthermore, when does it end? Let’s say you DO receive the validation that you are looking for from someone; does it stop there? won’t you need more from them? or now validation from somebody else?

All of this is to say, be mindful of how much mental real estate you are giving to the pursuit of external validation from other people. It can be an endless pursuit.

If seeking validation and self-esteem is something that you struggle with, counseling can help!

Philadelphia therapist Noam Dinovitz can be contacted by the form below or:

Email: Noam@Dinovitzcounseling.com

Phone: 484 424 7722